November cards: Dragonfly and the Mother of Cups

Dearest Wolflings,

We have passed through a harsh month, full of dichotomies and conflicting energies. I am happy to say that November is going to be a time of reflection, tapping into mindful directions, and listening to the rolling waves of our hearts. We move into the month of the Dragonfly and the Mother of Cups. Both cards tap into ancient wisdom of mindful intentions and actions. These cards harness a need to go deeper into the psyche, to heal wounds and learn more about our power.

Dragonfly and the Mother of Cups

Starting with the Dragonfly, this spirit animal has been seen in symbols across almost every culture. They have been around in some form for millions of years. They have seen the changes of the Earth, the rivers, the mountains, and the seasons through eyes that make the bulk of their head. They must keep moving, and they can move in all directions. These ancient ones call on us to see, to be still, and to move with direction. They call on us to quiet the mind and listen to the wisdom that come from being a part of this world. Acting with direction is key. Thinking before speaking is key. Creating powerful intentions and visualizations are key. The first step is to come into rhythm of silence by quieting the mind. Sit alone and meditate. Journal your thoughts and feelings. Create something for the simple sake of creation. The mind is able to move with purpose when we create buffers to safeguard the positive thoughts we are starting to manifest with this animal energy.

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All the mothers are the Healers. They are the Keepers of knowledge, lineage, and ritual. They safeguard the treasures of history and heritage. The Mother of Cups is double-water. Everything about her flows from the well of creation and intuition. In some ways she is like the Empress, endless in her capacities of love for the sake of love. They both radiate the light of inner acceptance, inner bloom. Where they depart is the Empress is the bridge between the High Priestess and the Emperor. She understands the messages of this world, but she is creative and channels her gifts towards the dawn of new possibilities which the Emperor enforces.

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The Mother of Cups is more internal, spending more time in ritual and in sacred space. She is highly intuitive and spiritual, but she is less public, less out in the open. Her gifts are born and brought from a place that she cannot share with others. Because she is a Swan, she is of two worlds. One of the land, and one of dark water. Because she is of two worlds she is also a bridge, a bridge between the tangible manifestation and the deep, pulsating quiet of the heart. She is a Keeper of the heart, of relationships, and selfless love, and a Healer to the world when she comes to the surface.

If there is one line I could write to describe what messages I am receiving from these cards, it would be: Quiet the mind. Channel the heart. Going deeper into the subconscious, into wishes and dreams, and manifesting positivity, ritual, heritage, our inner lineage is a tall order. How can we keep things out of our minds when so much is happening that is trying to force its way in? By creating boundaries. Like the Mother, we need to be of almost two worlds. The visible one on land where we bond and love and speak about how that love is never going to go away. But we also must go deeper to heal and learn and channel that love into ourselves for manifestation. Last month saw intense energy, now we must quiet the mind, and channel the heart for change.

**Thank you for reading. Please let me know your thoughts on these cards for November. Much love. Stay wild, wolfling!**

9 of Cups

9 of Cups and the Bear

Wolflings, let us deep dive now into the 9 of Cups (I will be discussing the Bear card at a later time). This card is often considered the “wish” card, implying that when this card shows up in a spread the things we wish for will come to pass. I think this notion is a little overindulged personally, and I think there are other aspects of this card that are much more potent than a wish. Wishes, dreams, and hopes are incredibly powerful, and I do not wish to dumb these needed aspects of life down. But I think that when it comes to this card, the message is more accessible in achieving the wishes of emotional integrity, and following the dreams of living in emotional wellness.

So let us go in deeper within the boundaries of this card…..

From the deck the Wild Unknown we see 9 cups arranged, almost in the way we would see at a dinner table or gathering. A crescent moon is found at the top, completely the circle. This shows that although the arrangement is almost complete, there is still room for collective creativity and growth that stems from personal possibility and accountability.

One of the biggest things I see with this card is the effect of community, strength in numbers, or support system. No one in this world makes their life ring without having the chorus of others. We all need someone or more to help us achieve what we wish. We need to be part of the table, the conversation, the collective integrity of whole growth. When we have those who are loyal, who help us lead our best and whole selves, we find comfort, security, or safety.

This card also shows that it is never to late to find emotional wellness. Even when the cards are stacked against us. Even when we face loss, grief, or trauma. When we let the spectrum of light, uplifting emotions down to deep, troubling emotions flow and open our hearts, we can actually find more emotional wisdom to become wholesome and honest. This is also greatly served by having a support system who will nourish and walk by our sides.

When we become conscious of our deep wishes and dreams, we can become more poised and capable of finding gratitude. If our deep wish is to connect with lost friend, a family member who we haven’t spoken to, or to achieve a great and emotionally fulfilling success, we tap into what we have to help us, and what we potentially still need. When we are honest that what we want isn’t always in our higher self-interest we can go deeper into what would help our self-interest in the most effective way.

One thing that I see with this card is the combined and mutual efforts between self and the universe. When we send out our best wishes, coupled with the gratitude of what we have here and now, the Universe receives that information, but the Universe is not responsible for us. We are responsible for ourselves, and the Universe. That does not mean that Universe does not hear us. She hears everything in our hearts, but we must take the initiative and start to enact the changes that we wish to see. We must start the process of attainment within our own ways.

When we follow our heart minds, and what they are really asking, we can unfold new possibilities. We can create a new emotional chapter, one that is more honest about our personal and communal evolutions. We can seek greater things. We can feel the conviction of new or awoken integrity to heart truth. These are medicines that will keep when the other things in the world are a struggle. When we can look to the hardships in life, and see them as a way to prosper and grow in a new way, we open the new chapter with much strength and intelligence.

 

**This is one of my favorite cards, and a beautiful look into the month of September, and how we can achieve what we desire emotionally. Please let me know what you think of this card. Stay wild wolflings!

Much love,

Ashlie

Card Comparison: 2 of Swords

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This month has been a deep dive into the 2 of Swords, which can be a challenging card. It is a card of layers, of merging and morphing multiple energies into a streamline of conscious action that initiates a change. What this means is that the card resembles and holds multiple energies at once. These energies can be challenges, calls to action, or reminders. Because there is so much to this card, it is interesting to see how the images are depicted to convey these dualities.

These two cards come from The Wild Unknown Tarot (depicted on the right), and the Ostara Tarot (depicted on the left). If you have multiple decks and are struggling to learn a card, compare the two. Sometimes seeing the multiple interpretations can help spark insight. If you do not have multiple decks, you can reach out and ask me to put up a picture, or use Google.

The Ostara Tarot shows a blindfolded blue jay perched on her nest, which has been created by using the two crossed swords as scaffolding. The swords seem to block a path that transitions from flat and easy to rocky terrain in the distance. As with all cards there is both light and shadow shown. This card shows that there can be comfort in the midst of a daunting setting. If we can come to terms with our thoughts becoming action or creations in the midst of an uncomfortable setting, then we can truly thrive in adaptability. We can use that which could be a setback or a threat, and turn it into a foundation.

This card also shows how strong instinct is, and how our mind can be channeled to create and compete, even when the cards are stacked against us. This Blue Jay was able to create her nest blindfolded and without damage done to her beautiful body. The instinct to create her home is so strong that it can be done no matter the cost. But this also opens the shadow side. Why would she create her nest here? It is admirable that she abilities are unchanged when she loses sight, but her home will never be free from danger. If she wishes to build a foundation free from any danger she will have to leave this place, and start down the path set for her towards new unknowns and new challenges.

This shadow side shows us that even when we achieve mental clarity from the Ace there can be residue from our former selves that we have to leave behind. This comes with intellectual honesty. We cannot be in the same routines to create change. If we receive inspiration and a new path, we must make the decision to shed our former habits and admit there is more to learn for integration. There is more that lies ahead, but we must be willing to lighten the load and act accordingly.

The 2 of Swords from The Wild Unknown also shows two crossed swords and in the middle of the V is a solar eclipse. A bright and fiery sun is concealed by the moon. This softens the harsh lights, but it conceals needed things. This, like the other card, shows an element of danger. If we attempt to stare head on at this occurrence we are both physical and metaphorically blinded. We need the sun to shine light on reality, to expose all that is around us so we can accurately act. But we need the influence of the Moon, with all its fluidity and watery pull.

This card shows that we need to work with both elements. We need to be willing to see reality for what is, but we need our intuition to guide us accurately. Intuition is a powerful thing. Just like any warrior who fights with these formidable blades, we need to move like in a dance. We need to be one with our thoughts and action, but that requires a compass of honesty and truth. The two crossed swords can be both a stance of protection and attack. This stance can protect us against coming attacks, but it can also be a combustion of strength and power.

What is needed is action. This card shows that indecision is a greater threat than an attack against us. We cannot hold this pose for long. We must move to honor our new path, otherwise we yield to stagnation. We could potentially stay here longer than welcome, but we would tire and succumb to neither victory or defeat. Both of these carry needed lessons if we are to grow.

Please let me know your thoughts on 2 of Swords. It is a card that combines a lot of energy. Take things slow. We are just at the beginning of new mental ground. It can be scary and elevating at the same time. Stay wild Wolflings!

2 of Swords and Eucalyptus

I am always thinking of correlations between the tarot cards and the world, reducing and extrapolating the meaning of a card into a synergistic relationship with something else. This could be a poem, a quote, a movie character, a crystal, or an essential oil. I have recently started using a lot more oils in my personal and spiritual life, and I wanted to see how oils were connected. How did the smell of an oil invoke the memory of a card? How did the impression create the path towards an image, even if they seem so unrelated?2 of swords and eucalyptus

Because the 2 of Swords is the tarot card of the month, I really want to find an oil that represented and resonated the core qualities of this card. As mentioned in my card description which can be found here, I recognized that one of the things that always sticks out to me about the 2 of Swords is the duality. Even the picture of the The Wild Unknown deck has both the Sun and the Moon. The two swords are crossed, either in a protective or attack position, and the Sun is behind the swords, but a full moon blocks the light.

This, at its surface, represents to me both the need for truth and action, intuition and conviction. The light of the Sun brings forth the truth, however harsh, but the moon represents the intuitive, the fluid nature of numerous cycles and ripples or movement in water. This suggests that the truth is attainable, but a core part of ourselves may be blocking that truth. We may think we have come into the light, but there is still a resilient shadow. In order to be skillful, calculated, or effective on our path we need both. Why then does this card feel so hard? I think the answer lies in the number. We have only just begun. Like those who learn the skill of the sword, they must move with the sword and learn the bite of the edge. Those who use the sword must not rely only upon talent or teaching. That will go a long way, but the presence of the moon speaks to finding intuition in movement, learning to trust the path, even if it is not what it seems.

How then does this relate to the chosen oil, Eucalyptus? In order for the duality of both truth and intuition to be in equilibrium, there needs to be as little resistance as possible. There is needs to be clam understanding, calm approach, and a molding of both protection and action. This is why I think of the 2 of the Swords when I smell Eucalyptus. Eucalyptus heals, reduces pain or inflammation, has a slight converging of sweetness and bite.

Eucalyptus can also tend to be overpowering, which is why little is key. Which is where we are at when we enter the 2 of Swords. We have just begun to materialize our vision, dream, or idea. We need to focus on the small amounts that help us grow and start a dialog, and not drown ourselves down with the excess.

Thank you so much for reading, let me know your thoughts in the the comments. Stay wild Wolflings!

August Tarot Card: 2 of Swords

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One of the things that I love most about tarot cards is the layers of relativity. There is so much to unpack with each picture and message that it is no wonder that those who learn tarot are often lifelong students. I am always looking for ways to go deeper into the cards, because that is how the meaning of each card manifests. When it takes the physical form of numerous situations in our lives is when it becomes more than just one interpretation.

To be honest, I am not sure how I want to tackle each month. There is so much that I want to discuss with each card. Scents, flowers, people, fictional characters, actions, cause and consequence, light and shadow. All of these could come forth in Tarot card of the month. There could be relevant articles, pictures, art, movies, or unknown connections that I have yet to see. What I do know is that this is the exciting part of tarot. I have always loved to see how tarot cards reveal themselves each day.

For the month of August, the 2 of Swords will be a major focus card. Others will be pulled, discussed, and shared, but I am being called by my guides to really dig deep right now. Maybe it is just a backlash from such an exhausting summer school semester that I feel detached in my own way from the cards. Maybe it is just a new revelation that came in the subconscious river up the cord and into the mind. Whatever the source, I am being called to go deeper into the cards, to really unpack them, and to go slow.

I hope you will join me, and let me know how the 2 of Swords surfaces for you over the next month. My hope is to post something everyday on at least one of my platforms: Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, or here. My hope for this is to keep the flow of the card moving and growing, so that every day reveals another breadcrumb on this trail. Also, please understand that this is not the only way to learn the cards. In fact, this is not how I initially learned. I pulled all the cards that I could all the time. I was so intensely invested in learning and discovering each card that I may have missed some messages that were coming from an individual archetype.

This isn’t a huge project, but it is a endeavor that I am finally realizing in manifestation. I would love to hear how the 2 of Swords comes around in your life. Stay wild wolflings!

The first book I learned to read tarot with, and how a glossy page can make all the difference.

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Do you ever stand in a bookstore, your eyes darting back and forth between the titles, unsure of which one is the right keeper of knowledge? When I first started to read tarot, it was out of necessity. I needed to put a pulse back in my chest, and a roar back in my throat if I was to brave another year. I went to the bookstore, knowing that I wanted a book worthy of this step. But all the titles professed the same action. They all held promise of expansion and depth, spirit making strides.

I finally settled on this book: The Key to Tarot: From Suits to Symbolism; Advice and Exercises to Unlock your Mystical Potential by Sarah Bartlett. Why did I settle on this book, because it felt beautiful in my hands. The hard, chocolate brown cover felt appropriate. The pages were colored. The pages were glossy. There was something about the shine, the texture, the lift of reds and blues from the page that made me settle on this one.

This book is a great beginner’s book because it goes into each card well for a beginner level. It includes exercises and meditations to connect more deeply into yourself and the craft. It also has some good spreads that I still use today. I must admit that I no longer reach for this book that much, but as my very first tarot book, it was a star-find. Other books that I have purchased since then have not fully compared to this book. Perhaps it is my nostalgia. Perhaps it is glossy pages and way the spine creases into the skin of my folded legs. I don’t know, but I love this little book.

I had placed this book on a shelf after I read it, and moved on to other titles. I came across some journal posts from when I first started reading, and I realized how much writing I did when I was travelling through this book. I wrote in my journal constantly. Everything was somehow related to the meanings of the cards that I was slowly absorbing with this book. I din’t think too much of it. I read the journal posts, smiled at how far I have come, and went about my day.

That was about a week ago. Since then I have gone through many books on my shelves, packing the one that I know I want to keep, but will not read for some time. Others, given away as donations. I pulled this book down off the shelf I was going through and again felt that tinge of nostalgia, like looking at an old picture of myself. I really wanted to go through some of the meditations and exercises again to really see how my tarot interpretations have become layered.

If you are new to tarot, document everything! Write it down, film it, take pictures, draw it. However you do it, just do it. Document your travels because it will become a map. It will show you how to rejoin an old part of yourself that perhaps has slithered deep into the dusky layer of the subconscious. Document so you can look back and see what your gut thoughts were. Don’t take the interpretations in the pages (no matter how glossy) as gospel. Make your own choices and see what is right for you. For example, the book mentioned here reads Court Cards as other people. I have never found Court Cards to be representative messages of other people. Never. Do what feels right, and keep it documented so you can come back with a seasoned heart later for reconnection.

You can find Sarah’s book here, along with many other books that she has written. This is not an affiliate code. I think this is a great little book if you are a tarot novice, or looking for your first book. I would love to hear the books that guided your path, tarot or otherwise. Much love wolflings!

 

 

Manifestation Package

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When you book a reading with me, one of the things that I offer is a Manifestation Package. This is more than just a free gift to say thank you for allowing me to work with you. The Manifestation Package is my attempt to help you channel the reading, long after our session. I want your reading to shake your bones and fill your space with stars. I want your feral, untamed nature to howl and sing forth the new energy that is coming in.

If you choose to accept this package. You get everything you see in the photo. There is a candle to help shed light on any card you are fixated on, or perhaps do not understand in its entirety yet. The candle is also meant to set an intention, and send the light out. Even the flame itself can show energy. If the fire is bright and vibrant, your energy is strong. If the flame is moving, or hard to manifest, this could be where you place your intention, an attempt to make your inner light breathe again.

The little incense stick is to consecrate your space. I fully believe in the energy of a space, and incense has been used for thousands of years to consecrate and channel a sacred feeling. The incense is Jasmine, and this scent has been used for many different purposes. More than anything, I hope it helps you feel intimate with your situation, and not wary. I hope you can stand in the smoke and be knighted in your attempts to deepen the reading into your source.

The Tiger’s Eye is meant to symbolize power. It can help rid anxiety and promote positive action in your endeavors. I believe you are already strong, but a reminder is always nice. You can hold them and help use the intention from the candle to connect further into your reading. You can channel a certain card or image that you want to hold. Stones are the weight of the world. They will keep burdens that you and I cannot bear to carry. Whatever came up in your reading, you can place it or release it with these stones.

The tea is meant to create a needed pause for reflection. As you sit with your reading, I hope in the moments when you know and feel you can sink in a little deeper, the tea is there to help be a catalyst. Allow yourself the time and silence to reflect on your reading, and what feelings and thoughts it brings up. This is the best way, the only way, to deepen your relationship with your cards.

The bag itself can even become a sacred space. You can anoint it with oil, use potpourri, keep written or physical insights from your reading. Bags have long been used as a way to keep close what we hold dear. I wanted the bag to dual purpose for that reason.

What is not shown is the handouts I also send via email. One in particular has spaces for you to write down anything that surfaces from using your manifestation package. I, as a tarot reader, am here to hold the torch for you. I am not here to simply give a reading and then forget the energy in a poof. I want the reading to resonate long after our time together. My card is in each package, and I hope that through our space, you can go deeper in a safe way to what is needed most.

Thank you for all that you give wolf-darlings! If you would like to book a reading with my check out my Policies and Code of Ethics and my available spreads.

Stay wild wolflings!

Saturday Reflections: Scorpion and the 3 of Pentacles

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“I saw the sun disappear / into mist as it reached / the horizon. And an egret / airborne, circling all / this time” ~ Running by Leslie Ullman

I don’t know about you, but much of my week is spent doing so many things, that I hardly get the time to take a look inward, to reflect on needed remnants from my inner low-tide. If I do get the time, I am hardly useful, except to remind my cats with a good scratch under the chin that they are why I do what I do. The weekends however, are when that silent wind sings out strong in me and I can say the words, much like singing to a forgotten, but beloved song.

I chose two cards to be the catalyst towards my introspection. The cards are the Scorpion and the 3 of Pentacles. One of the first things I look for in cards drawn is comparisons, or differences. The first thing I see in these cards is the difference in elements. The Scorpion card resembles the fire element. Pentacles are of the earth. In the real world, fire and earth do not mix. My stomping ground (Colorado) is constantly besieged with fire warnings in the summer because it is so dry. But fire does fertilize the soil, churns dormant seeds to sprout with the help of sun-fire and needed rain. This tells me that much of the energy will be a trial of fire. New growth can come, but it requires a sacrifice.

The Scorpion is the embodiment of the free-spirit. When this card is pulled it is a reminder to walk our path but hold some defenses. Not all those will admire the strength to walk your line, to live accordingly to your surroundings and spirit. The ones that do admire and hold to this are passionate in their own ways. They see the strength in individuality because they also walk their own fire. A scorpion can live in almost desolate climates, they can survive without food for periods of time, only as long as they have water. As long you have that which nourishes your source, you can survive.

However, the spirit of the Scorpion is one that also brings baggage. Scorpion souls carry the venom of the past, the pain of toxic situations and circumstances. In order to stand in our fire, we must only use that baggage when needed. We must use negative feelings with the attempt to try to heal, and forgive. Is there anything you are carrying that is no longer serving you? How could you turn this into growth? How can you forgive even those words were never mentioned by someone? This is not easy. I know I still struggle with this sometimes. I look to the past to learn, but in true honesty, I am looking to the past because I haven’t found my own healing. This is human. If you can relate, know that you are not alone. And if all I can do here with my business and these words is to state that I believe in you wolf-darling, then I can go to bed fulfilled.

The act of forgiveness and skillfully growing bleeds beautifully into the meaning of the 3 of Pentacles. The 3 of Pentacles brings many things to my mind. One is that of collaboration. The three pentacles from the rudimentary shape of something majestic. Another is the act of starting in different places, but all paths lead to a similar destination. Another is knowing which energy you can honestly give at that point in time. There are times where we do not have to hold the whole spectrum of color. We just have to put our energy out there in a way that contributes to the whole spectrum.

Find your inner free-spirit by surrounding yourself with those who will help bring out the positive or best in you. Become engaged with anything that helps you stand in your fire truthfully. For me, this is often found by just being in my home. When I am home I am reminded of where my growth has gotten me. I try to relieve the baggage by standing naked, surrounding myself with my words of love for my family and my creations. We cannot always start or hold the same energy as the day previously, but we can be honest and say that this is what we have to give today. We cannot retell the past. It is what it is. And even if we cannot start where we wish we could, we can be honest and say that. We do not have to reinvent the wheel of all our situations because of the baggage we carry. But we can be honest, walk our path, and move towards growth.

**Thank you so much for reading. Please let me know your thoughts. If you would like a reading, please check out my Policies and Code of Ethics, and my spread options. Thank you for being awesome, wolfling. My wolf-pack is where I am my honest and true free-spirit. Stay wild.**

The decks that I have used are The Wild Unknown Animal Spirit and The Wild Unknown Tarot. Click here to find them for purchase. (This is not an affiliate link).

When is it inappropriate to read the tarot cards?

 

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The tarot is a beautiful, binding, helpful, and honest tool that can reach into our skeletons and place the truth inside our ribs. It can give it a heartbeat, a quickened pace in our search to find our highest potentials. However, there are times when tarot is inappropriate. There are times when it is out of place to do a reading or seek a reading. This may seem counterproductive. Any tarot reader should surely be able to read on any topic, at any time, right? No. Above anything, a reading should be helpful. Some of these topics will just muddle the path. Some can get you in a whole heap of shit.

  • No reading should EVER predict or speak to a physical death. First of all, you don’t have to be psychic to say that someone is going to die. We are all going to leave our physical forms and diminish back to matter and energy. But, even though death is a certainty, it should never be predicted through the cards. The role of a tarot reader is to help, never harm. Telling someone they will die in 6 months because of a card pull is going to leave them shaken, scared, or ready to sue. Readings should leave everyone feeling empowered, not looking over their shoulder to see when something is coming.

 

  • It is illegal to medically diagnose, to give legal counsel, or financially advise someone if you are not an authority in that topic. A card cannot tell you if someone has cancer. It cannot tell you how to beat cancer. These topics are serious, and should be directed to the people who can give adequate help. It is better to risk losing a client than to take money for something that you have no experience in. Being honest, and directing the client to the proper channels will leave a better impact. The client will not see you as money hungry, or here to take their hard-earned dollars. They will see that you were more invested in helping them than in making a profit.

 

  • Tarot cannot replace real life experiences. It can shed some light on those experiences, but it cannot be a substitute for experiencing and learning. Think of it this way: card 7 in the Major Arcana is the Chariot. The Chariot speaks to action through discipline, freedom to move based on choice, an alignment between the body and the spirit through physical moves, and many more meanings. If you pull the Chariot in a reading, you hold a bright and beautiful card in front of you. The metaphor of the Chariot is stunning to be sure, but guess what, you still must drive the chariot to go anywhere. That’s right. You. The seeker. You are the driver; the Chariot is the transportation. If you are not in the driver’s seat, holding the reins and ready to run with that metaphor, you will not go anywhere.

 

  • The tarot is not meant to do the work for you. This even includes engaging with others. Many tarot readers will not even read 3rd party readings because they find it obtrusive in energy. I am one of these readers. My cards are not spies. Asking a question such as, “how can I help my boyfriend this week because he is stressed at work?” is not a 3rd party question. In fact, it is a beautiful question. A 3rd party question would be “My boyfriend has been acting weird. Is there someone else in his life, and what is he doing with her?” Nothing in this question points to the seeker. All of the energy is directed at the absent boyfriend. Some don’t find this to be a wrong question to ask. The opinions in this blog post are my own. I am not saying I am better reader than those who perform 3rd party questions. I am saying I believe this question to fall into the scope of when tarot readings can fringe on the boundaries of ethics.

 

  • Another time that a tarot reading can become inappropriate is when you feel like you cannot get through any struggle or conflict without turning to the cards. If the routine is always: conflict, tarot, conflict, tarot, this is not helping. This falls back into the scope of asking the tarot to do all the work. The tarot can help with many conflicts, but before you engage in any reading or discussion, you should be relaxed and at least at peace in the moment. Journaling, walking, exercising, and any number of activities are great ways to relax, refocus, and become mindful of what exactly you want to ask. Then you are receptive, and ready to be challenged or charged. If you have a huge fight with a friend and then immediately turn to the tarot to figure out what to do, you are not investing first in finding mindfulness. And if there truly is an energy transfer, your cards are getting a whole heap of angry and bitterness if they are your immediate go-to.

 

  • Another common inappropriate practice is picking new cards till you get the ones you want. That would be like someone dating you till their first choice came along. That’s a serious party foul, right? It is similar in tarot. There are no “good” or “bad” cards. If you do a reading, or ask for one, and receive the Tower, Death, the Devil, and the 10 of Swords than you do have a lot going on right now. But if you keep pulling until you get the Sun, you are not putting the focus into dealing with what is in front of you. You are looking for the salve when you should be looking for the armor to adorn you for the warrior you are and will need to be. Let the cards speak and say what they need to say. If they say you still have a battle to fight, put on your war paint and howl.

 

This are just my opinions; these are some of the values that I follow when I read for myself and others. I do not believe that my tarot cards are the crystal ball to all my answers. They are a unique and powerful friend. They will say what is meant to be said, and allow me to think about questions and possible actions. Just like any healthy relationship, boundaries are key. Boundaries do not diminish love. I love my boyfriend, but I don’t want him around for ladies’ night. There are times when tarot will not provide what is needed. That is okay, and not unexpected. We cannot get all of our knowledge or growth in one place.

**If you think that I could be a good match for you as reader, please email me at teaandtombstones@gmail.com. Please let me know any comments or questions you have about this, or anything with the tarot. Respect is key, and I love to hear other opinions. I don’t want to live in an echo chamber. Stay wild!**